Tuesday, December 30, 2014
Moving forward... it's amazing what you can do when you put your mind to it.
Weight loss... I've tried to stay away from anything milk related except my lactose free items.
I've been doing well. I have a few small snacks at my desk. Today I ate 10 Reese's pieces for snack in the morning. I also have some cashews I can snack on too but haven't touched them. Also I have the gum which helps me out a lot. Today I drank mostly juice and my vitamin water. Only a little soda with my breakfast and dinner. I have ALSO been taking my medications, all off them including the one at night.
My vision for myself in the future is to become a better person physically, mentally and spiritually. I know two days isn't enough to say it's a breakthrough of a success, but it's a good start and I am proud of myself.
I am starting to watch these videos by a guy name Leo under Actualized.org on you tube. Self control, how to master and control your emotions, how to control anger, how to stop worrying and a whole bunch more. As he was talking I actually was saying it before he did...it makes total sense to me!
Other than that not much going on here, just checking in and wishing everyone a very Happy New Year. Here's to a better 2015!!
Sunday, December 28, 2014
Wait! What am I thinking? Normal? Around here? HA! Anyway, I was at home surfing the web and preparing to trek out to Old Navy to do a return because I have had the WORST luck with shipping this year. That is another post entirely for another time and honestly it seems miniscule beside what I am talking about today.
Razark took most of the week off since we had our older two boys for Christmas and so he was home which is really not normal at all. He came in and showed me a text from his office mate and friend J. I was in complete shock. One of my very best friends was rushing home because his house was on fire. It came to be that it seemed like it was going to be a total loss too.
I sent a text to F and simply asked one question, "Is everyone OK?" I cannot wrap my head around losing everything but my concern was for his wife, kids, and pets. Once I knew that everyone was fine I was comfortable waiting for information. The next update came from him in the form of a picture.
I have known F since high school. We weren't as close until afterwards when we reunited at work. We have been the best of friends for years. He is one those people who know me almost better than I know myself. He knows my ugly side and still loves me. He contacted my husband for me when I was just looking to reunite with him and wanted to be sure his ex-wife wouldn't answer. He and our friend Nik are the reasons that Razark and I are together today with four gorgeous kids. When Razark and I got married F was our Best Man. When our youngest boys were born we asked him to be their Godfather. Some people take that lightly but not F. He went home and discussed it with his wife because he took that responsibility seriously. How cool is that?
I held his daughter when she was just a wee thing and I have been honored to watch his family grow up. We have been through our share of storms just as any long term friends have but we have made it through. When things are not right with certain people in my life, I do not function well at all. He is one of those people.
So, I have been scrambling to find resources and help just like all the other people who love this family. I have seen and hugged F FINALLY and I am a bit more relaxed to know that temporary housing has been found. BUT there are needs such as toiletries and clothing. The kids go back to school in a week and F and T go back to work tomorrow.
This is just some of the devastation that they have suffered. Things from loved ones that have passed on are gone as well as baby pictures and wedding pictures but they are going to be fine. They will continue to stick together and rebuild because they are strong. I will continue to help because I love them.
14 years went up in smoke. I remember going over floor plans with him when they got the house before their second child was born.
If you are touched by this and would like to help, please contact me at: firstname.lastname@example.org
I have sizes for the family. I have a PayPal address for them. I also have some room in my garage for small household appliances.
Anything helps! Mostly I would like to get clothes for them to begin to resume a normal life.
Saturday, December 27, 2014
Usually as a joke my New Years Resolution is to not make one, but this year I have decided it will be a little different.
1 - SIMPLICITY. Keep It Simple Stupid.. is my motto.
2 - LET IT GO! All the hate, the pain, the anger, and the jealousy... just let it go, it causes more problems than it does anything else.
3 - DROP THE DRAMA. This pretty much relates to everyone else in my life... my husband and his stupid reasons to get upset over NOTHING, my youngest throwing his 'drama king' fits, my older son NOT doing what he was supposed to.
4 - GET MY FINANCES IN CHECK. Yes this is a true possibility this year and you know what I am NEVER going to go back to where I was before.
5 - MOVE ON IN MY LIFE. Leave all the stuff that's holding me down and keeping me back from what I truly want to do. It's for my own good so if I hurt people along the way hopefully they don't take offense. My mental health is more important than the crap you do that causes me to have issues with in my life.
6 - CHANGE MY EATING HABITS. This is the most important one. I have spent too many late nights/early mornings in the bathroom because of eating something with cheese due to my Lactose Intolerance. Well no more.
a. No more cheese.
b. Stay away from fried foods.
c. Less red meat.
d. More water, less soda/
e. Healthy snacking between meals.
It is a start for me for the new year, I think 6 is enough for me. If I can even get 3 of them done 50% I'd be very happy.
Thursday, December 25, 2014
I do want to wish you love, peace, happiness, and lots of goodies today and always!!
Wednesday, December 24, 2014
We have our traditions to uphold and I am sure that you do as well. We hope where ever you are and whoever you are with we hope you have a very peaceful and loving day!!
Thank you to my Sistahs here for all of the love and support that they have given so freely! I love you all!
We aren't very far apart!
So please, I implore you, try some of this tea. It will change your tea life forever. Even if you're not crazy about fruit in your tea (which is how I was until Lipton started making all these blends). Let Lipton change your life, ok?
**Bonus points if you get the Brian Regan "I'm RECORDING fishing" reference**
Monday, December 22, 2014
I just recently started getting Saturday and Sunday's off from work. 2 days in a row, and on the weekend at that! How freakin awesome is that!? Ummmm pretty freakin awesome! I've finally paid my dues, I'm manager, and I deserve to have the weekends off right!? YEAH! However, 2 whole days, with no break from the kids, ummm, yeah. I yearn for Monday. How sad is it that I look forward to work to relax? I need a fucking vacation YO, and after these next 2 weeks, I'm thinking the looney bin might be where I end up, BY CHOICE!
We are staying with family right now, due to some unfortunate circumstances at my apartment. Once I get my tax return, we are going to FINALLY get us a house. In the meantime however we are fortunate enough to have family that is willing to put up with this brood! But being in someone elses house makes the usual stress multiply by about 479%! So this upcoming break, even though the kids are ecstatic to not have school, is stressing me out beyond the usual mommy stress. And it hasn't even started yet!!
So I am very excited about Christmas, and doing our special family traditions that we have started since being a family sans a daddy. I love to see the excitement in their eyes when they see the lights, and opening up our Christmas Jammies on Christmas eve. Plus the baby is old enough to actually start getting excited over some of this as well. I am just hoping that I make it through the rest of this otherwise, crazy, stupid year. Anyone who has a moment, please pray that I don't go "postal" before I can send them back to school. I just hope we all make it through these last few weeks without any casualties.
I hope you all have a wonderful Christmas, and a fun filled Christmas break! Love you all!
I was fine this weekend, got all my holiday shopping done and NOW I am in the "I don't give a rats arse anymore" mood. This has got to stop, not going to be like this on Thursday.. can't be this way.
Bed may be a good idea right now, between the husband and the kids getting on my nerves, I'm ready to snap. *sigh*
What is wrong with me?
Sunday, December 21, 2014
Friday, December 19, 2014
Just going to leave this recipe right here for y'all.
-don't know where this actually came from but I got it from my
Mother-in-Law and it is fabulous.
2- 1 lbs bags of meatballs completely thawed
1 can whole berry cranberry sauce
3/4 c Chili sauce. (in with ketchup and such)
1/4 c Water
Put sauce ingredients together in the crockpot. Stir well to combine.
Add meatballs and stir to coat well. Set crockpot on low for 3-4 hours
I knew what I was doing when I signed on for a long-distance relationship. I knew there would be days it wouldn't be so bad (like when we snuggle up and he dutifully watches Christmas movies, not because he loves them, but because he loves me). I knew there would be days it would be hard (like when he went to his holiday party and I got to hear about the food and see him all dashing, dapper and handsome, but didn't get to hold his hand as he walked in). What I failed to fully appreciate was how fahking ridiculously hard some things would be. I stare blankly at the tree and wonder what it would look like if we had some of his little boy's ornaments on it. I imagine the two of us under a blanket, giggling over cocoa after the kids have gone to bed. I imagine the joy on his face as he gets to see my boys open the gifts from him or me open whatever insanely thoughtful thing he's gotten me this year. And, I'm not going to lie, I cry. Sometimes I cry a lot. The years that I have the boys, I cry less because I don't want them to be confused. Stomp's old enough to understand that this thing is hard. Joshie Mark is not.
So anyway, this year the boys head off to their dad's for Christmas and I head off to...nowhere. It just didn't work out for me to travel this year and I'll be home alone for everything. Oh, I have some plans. My dad's on the wagon again and that makes him pretty delightful company. And because I'm
Wednesday, December 17, 2014
Wordless Wednesday.... NAH! Wonderland Wednesday? OK Christmas Crack candy AKA Savory Saturday on Wednesday
Crock pot Christmas Crack Candy
1- 16 oz jar dry roasted peanuts unsalted
1- 16 oz jar dry roasted peanuts salted
1- 12 oz bag semi sweet chocolate chips
1- 12 oz bag milk chocolate chips
2- 10 oz bag peanut butter chips
2- 1 lbs packages of vanilla candy coating or white almond bark
Layer all ingredients in a large crockpot (starting with peanuts). Turn the pot on low, cover with lid, and leave sitting for 2 hours. Then, remove lid and stir to combine. Replace lid and leave sitting for another 30 minutes. Stir again and then spoon mixture on to wax paper or non-stick aluminum foil. Allow to harden for at least 1 hour. Enjoy!
OK, now pay attention! My crock pot cooks at an extremely hot heat even on LOW. My first batch last year burned. This year I stirred it after an hour. I stirred again after 30 minutes, and once more after 15 more minutes. I still had a small area of burning but last year I lost half the dang pot so I was happy. My advice is to let it go about 1 hour 5 minutes and stir. Then stir again every 15 minutes if you have a finicky crockpot like me. I also advise you to use a slow cooker liner for easy clean up. This stuff is yummy.
To answer the next question- yes, you can probably use any nuts that you want. My youngest is allergic to tree nuts so we stuck to peanuts.
Sunday, December 14, 2014
Why do I feel like I am not a good enough friend when someone highlights another friend?
I do not have a best friend anymore. 2 years ago I lost two people who I thought were until they hurt me like I've never been hurt before.
Now all I am is alone. I am not even my own best friend. Don't know if it's possible to have one anymore considering what happened to the last two "supposed" friends I had.
Just feeling kinda down and dejected today. I am sure come Monday I'll be too busy to even think about it... I think that's what I'm going to have to do because this stupid little BS I put myself through isn't worth it.
I'm going to play a game... *sigh*
When do I get a friend like me?
Saturday, December 13, 2014
3 whole chicken breasts/ a few cups of leftover turkey meat
2 packages frozen broccoli (The size depends on the cut of broccoli and how much you like it)
2 cans cream of chicken soup
1 cup mayonnaise
1 cup sour cream
1 cup grated cheddar (we use cheddar jack because the hubby is not a cheddar fan)
1 tsp lemon juice
salt and pepper to taste
Simmer chicken breasts in salted water. (We have always used leftover meat so we have never done this.) Cook broccoli. Mix soup, sour cream, mayo, cheese, and seasonings. Use a 13x9 greased pan. Layer broccoli, chicken/turkey, and parmesan cheese. Cover with sauce. Top with remaining parmesan cheese. Bake at 350 for 40 minutes.
I really hope you enjoy this as much as we do! This stuff almost never makes it to left overs.
Friday, December 12, 2014
Wow, only 5 things that I like about December? I could probably go for 500 and still miss some. Being that it is the Christmas season and all I will try to steer clear of all the normal things about Christmas time just to keep it interesting...
1. Two of my children were born in the month of December!! The Little Professor turned 11 on the 2nd and The Gamer turns 14 on December 15th.
2. The semester ends in December! I am tired y'all! This policy analysis and learning to practice with individuals is hard work. I am ready to sleep in and read something for fun. I need a few days of trash TV to wind down from poverty, LGBTQI rights, race relations, and mental health issues.
3. December is my month to bake!! While the husband and kids DnD with our friends, I am usually found at home baking up a storm. I absolutely love to turn up the MP3 player and bake until I am hurting and fall into bed. I love the fact of knowing that the family loves my goodies.
4. OK, this one is a bit normal... but FAMILY! I adore spending time with my family. I can hang out with my Mom and Sister and not have to run home to finish a paper or a presentation. That is so cool to me because I can relax and laugh with the people that I love most.
5. Cold nights. I live in Texas y'all! It yo-yos up and down a lot. You can usually depend on more cold nights in December finally!! I love the cold weather because well, um, I live in Texas. It rarely snows here and rarely ices over so I can love winter with all of my heart because if it does snow or ice... the whole damn city is shutting down!
Happy Mid-December y'all! I wish you peace, love, and cozy nights!!
Monday, December 8, 2014
Here we go..
Best Bread Stuffing
This is just like my Grandma made hers but without raw egg... I love it! The kids love it! And it is fun to make with the kids. BONUS! It is even more of a bonus if you are like me and hate anyone in your cooking space.
3/4 cup finely chopped onion
1 1/2 cups chopped celery (with leaves)
1/2 cup chopped fresh parsley
1 cup butter
9 cups soft bread cubes
2 teaspoons salt
1 1/2 teaspoons dried sage
1/4 teaspoon ground sage
1 teaspoon dried thyme leaves
1/4 teaspoon poultry seasoning
1/2 teaspoon fresh ground black pepper
Cook and stir onion and celery in butter in 10 to 12 inch skillet until onion is tender. Stir in about 1/3 of the bread cubes. Turn into a deep bowl. Add remaining ingredients; toss. Stuff turkey just before roasting. 9 cups stuffing.
STUFFING BALLS: Shape stuffing by 1/2 cupfuls into balls; place in greased baking dish. Cover and cook in 325 degree F oven 30 minutes. Uncover and cook 15 minutes longer. 10 Stuffing Balls.
NOTE: To make Corn Bread Stuffing, you can substitute corn bread cubes for the soft bread cubes.
Tip for freezing for Thanksgiving/Christmas:.
NOTE: The unbaked stuffing mixture will freeze great in containers or freezer bags to serve later. To reheat: Thaw and bake it in a greased dish, (rather than in the bird)at 350°F until golden brown on top (about 30 minutes covered, then uncover and bake for 15 minutes more). Don't over bake!
SING ALONG SUNDAY!
My friend, Leisa Heitman, turned mw on to KT Tunstall years ago. Leisa passed on a few years ago from cancer but KT still makes me smile, sing along, and think of my fellow Texas Belle and Monkee Pal.
And the song that I fell in love with from KT:
This song makes me think of the one Ex who asked me to marry him and I said no. Something inside me knew that he wasn't the one for me. Good thing too because I found the one for me.
1000 Weeping Angels - ESH 12/2014
Saturday, December 6, 2014
I was just reading this article on bi-polar disorder and came across this:
Grandiose delusions (GD) or delusions of grandeur
Bipolar disorder is severe affective dysregulation, or mood states that sway from exceedingly low (depression) to exceptionally high (mania). Bipolar patients with grandiose delusions are essentially high on themselves. If they convey any feelings of aggravation at all, these at most characterize secondary anxiety that others will be jealous of them and hold them back from getting what they are entitled to, or seize what they already have.
Bipolar patients experience delusion during the worse part of their illness. Typically, when experiencing or displaying a stage of heightened excitability, joy, rage, senselessness, and correlated phenomena they might convey thoughts or beliefs that are grandiose in nature. Some of these grandiose beliefs frequently involve thoughts that the patient is very rich or famous or has super human abilities, etc. In the most severe form, known as psychotic mania, the bipolar patient may hear voices and have grandiose delusions such as "I am the King of England".
- Now I am starting to wonder if I am headed that way.. the reason I say this is because of my interest in the D/s lifestyle I've been having fantasies... also I use this to build myself up and make myself feel better about myself... which from what I'm reading in this article isn't such a good thing.
Positive functionsGrandiose delusions frequently serve a very positive function for the person of sustaining or increasing their self-esteem. As a result, it is important to consider what the consequences of removing the grandiose delusion are on self-esteem when trying to modify the grandiose delusion in therapy. In many instances of grandiosity it is suitable to go for a fractional rather than a total modification, which permits those elements of the delusion that are central for self-esteem to be preserved. For example, a man who believes he is a senior secret service agent gains a great sense of self-esteem and purpose from this belief, thus until this sense of self-esteem can be provided from elsewhere, it is best not to attempt modification.
- I highlighted the part that worries me the most about getting help for this...
Accounts of delusionThere are two alternative accounts for getting grandiose delusions:
- Delusion-as-defense account: defense of the mind against lower self-esteem and depression
- Emotion-consistent account: result of exaggerated emotions.
Thanks for reading..
So this year, a package arrived especially early for Christmas for Stomp and Joshie Mark. When I opened it up and saw those numbers on that calendar I got so excited for them. And I was so touched that Grandma K, with all she has going on right now, took the time to carry on the tradition from Mark's daughter to his two grandsons (one of whom carries forth his name). I didn't know a way to thank her properly or to tell her how much it meant to me, except to write it down here. It can be so hard being so far away from my parents and my grandparents. And I know they wish they were watching Nathan and Joshua Mark grow up. But these little things they do a half dozen times a year, helps draw them in and bring them closer. I know I can feel them close to my heart every time I see their name on a card or an envelope. I know how much it meant to them that I named Joshua after my dad, Mark. So I guess what I'm trying to say in all this is THANK YOU, Grandma and Grandpa K. Thank you for carrying on a tradition, for always loving me and my boys, for never making me feel like an outcast or less of a grandchild and for always bringing humor and love into our lives. (PSST: Grandpa, thanks for that chocolate ice cream cone in the car when I was visiting in Ohio, too. And for hosing me off so Grandma didn't see how messy I got!) You guys are not just Great Grandparents and Grandparents, you are truly GrandBlessings.
Much love from Eri, Nathan and Joshua Mark.
Friday, December 5, 2014
The first real “sex” dream I can remember having was with Brad Garrett, who played Ray Barone’s brother, Robert, on Everybody Loves Raymond. I can’t watch that show to this day without vivid flashbacks of that dream!
When I’m in a really bad mood, I force myself to watch YouTube videos of babies laughing to cheer myself up. I do love to hear a baby laugh, but honestly, I mostly do it because I think my baby is so much freaking cuter than all of them, and that makes me happy. I know. I’m going to hell.
I have this incessant need to read the Missed Connections on Craigslist at least once a week. I secretly hope that one day there will be one about me. So far no luck. There was one about a girl I worked with once though. I was jealous, I will admit it. Did I show it to her? No I did not. Why? Because I’m a mean, jealous person, and I honestly truly think that the guy who posted it must have been on drugs. I didn’t want my co-worker messed up with someone like that! HONEST!
When I was younger, my dream was to play Sami Brady on Days of Our Lives. You may all know her as Allison Sweeney from the Biggest Loser. She was pretty close to my age, and when she first started on Days she was kind of chubby. So was I. However, she was really mean. She always got what she wanted, no matter what she had to do to get it, and I wished I had her courage to stand up and fight for whatever it was I wanted. I was a very shy, quiet kid. I didn’t actual develop any sort of backbone until I left my ex-husband. So yeah, I guess you could say I really just wanted to be a Bitch! Whoa, I think I succeeded!
Wow, I am such an open person that I am not sure what you might not know.
1) Every dream that I ever had about my future children featured a daughter. I never in a million years expected to have boys. I was never pink princess and tea parties despite being the girly girl of the family. I find myself almost relieved to have all boys.
2) Justice is my first love. I memorized Miranda rights at 9. For years I wanted to be a lawyer.
3) I have been singing since I was a little girl but only publicly once at a bar with a group of girls. Singing and music are woven into the very fabric of my soul.
4) I am fascinated with human behavior. It drives my husband absolutely nuts and he is ground in concrete facts.
5) If I love you, I feel your pain. I am an empath. If I don't like you then I could care less.
1 - I have the most awesome smile... always the first thing most people notice.
2 - My husband and I have had an open marriage since Nov 2012.
3 - I love to read the "Little House on the Prairie" series every summer.
4 - If I ever ran away as a kid I was going to change my name is Sydney Wright.
5 - I have a dark side to me... who is wanting to experience the Dominant/Submissive.
Scary huh? hehee...
5 Things You May Not Know About Eri:
1. I believe I have the most adorable feet, evah. They're tiny (I can wear both kids and adult-sized Chucks) and the most perfect creamy white with just a little sprinkle of freckles.
2. My very first pair of Chucks were red and they came with a red pair of Justin Ropers from my Nany's daughter Donna (we'll talk about her a lot more someday). To this day, if I'm wearing shoes they're either Chucks or a pair of black Ropers I have.
3. When I was growing up, I wrote short stories about women who wore long flowy skirts and dresses, lived in the middle of nowhere, had a few kids and a few dogs running around and hung clothes on the line. This was the life I wanted for myself. I had it for a while but I also had a fahkton of other baggage and bullshit. Now, I see a totally different life for myself and I no longer write pretty fairy tales. I write macabre poetry* and this little blog.
4. My Nany (the woman who helped my mama and my grandma raise me, who babysat me for years and is still an extra mom to me) and my mom were crazy-close friends growing up. We're all family and always will be. That said, one of my earliest memories is of being babysat with Nany while we all sat in a blow-up raft in the living room singing "Key Largo". I'm not saying there was alcohol involved, but y'all do the math. That's still one of my all-time favorite songs.
5. Every single year I re-read the collective works of Poe and Shakespeare. There are assorted other fictional story series I re-read when a new book comes out, but always those two. I can recite Annabel Lee from memory. I wear a raven necklace only because there is no Annabel Lee jewelry. And I can do several of the famous Shakespeare monologues from memory too.
Tuesday, December 2, 2014
Cabbage is a superfood with lots of nutrients! Did you know that it is known for healing stomach ulcers and preventing cancer (particularly colon cancer).
This is a simply, yet delicious recipe for unstuffed cabbage rolls. There are two versions, soupy and upsoupy. LOL basically, If you want it less "soupy" you need to add 1 c. of (uncooked) rice and it will absorb the extra water (& extend the servings., making it even more budget friendly!)
1 1/2 to 2 pounds lean ground beef or turkey
1 tablespoon oil
1 large onion, chopped
1 clove garlic, minced
1 small cabbage, chopped
2 cans (14.5 ounces each) diced tomatoes
1 can (8 ounces) tomato sauce
1/2 cup water
1 teaspoon ground black pepper
1 teaspoon sea salt
Heat the Olive oil in a Big Skillet (use medium heat) Saute the onions until tender, and then add the ground beef (or turkey) until the meat is browned.
Add the garlic, cook an additional minute before adding the remaining ingredients. (This is the point you would add the rice Bring them to a boil, Cover, reduce the heat and simmer about 25 minutes (or until the cabbage is quite fork tender)
Yield: Serves 6 to 8