Saturday, July 30, 2016

This pisses me off.... I'm furious

Get this:

We are looking for a special family for a baby boy who is due in September 2016. Genetic testing has confirmed that the baby has Down syndrome. The expectant parents are considering adoption because they do not feel adequately prepared to care for a child with special needs. They are a Caucasian couple, in their early to mid-thirties, and have healthy backgrounds. The expectant mother has received prenatal care throughout the pregnancy and has not used drugs or alcohol. She has a college degree; the father has a high school degree.

The fetal echocardiogram at 27 weeks indicates a large ventricular septal defect with balanced AV canal and primum atrial septal defect. Most children with this diagnosis must undergo surgery to correct the defect.

The expectant parents for this baby prefer adoptive applicants who are married and heterosexual; however, they will also consider a single female applicant. They would like to have ongoing contact after placement, including regular updates and occasional in-person visits. We are seeking prospective adoptive parents with an approved home study who would be excited to welcome this child into their family.

If interested, please fill out the pre-application form.
We have a careful screening process for identifying prospective adoptive families and we review all pre-applications that are submitted. Although residing in Illinois is not a requirement, we do prioritize those families who have an approved home study by an Illinois agency.

****Ready for my rank about this?****

WTF is wrong with these parents? " not feel adequately prepared to care for a child with special needs?" I was not prepared to care for BOTH of my kids who have special needs, in fact none of that testing was done.. The parents sound selfish if you ask me.

"They would like ongoing contact after placement, including regular updates and occasional in-person visits." WHAT THE HELL FOR!? You gave this kid up! With all the surgery, therapy and specialists appointments this child will need do you think the new parents will have time to do this for you? Are you crazy! These parents are doing all the work for you and you just want to pop in like an absentee parent and say hi. The minute things get uncomfortable to you because of the child's mental/physical state you'll run off?

Suck it up idiots, you created this child, you take care of it and raise it. From my point of view you are being selfish and immature. Are you going to do this with every child you make? What if all of them will be special needs? Are you willing to take this chance every time? Do you realize most kids in need of adoption are "special needs" children no one will take. Keep your kid, love them, let them know they are loved, because if this kid is smart they will realize you threw them away because of your selfishness. From someone who had special needs children, there is no such thing as normal.

1 comment:

  1. Don't get me wrong, I'm appalled by the parents' decision in this instance. I never had genetic testing because it literally never mattered to me. BUT, *you*, my sweet Twinsie girl, are an exceptional and extraordinary person and parent. I am so.fucking.lucky. to know you. Love you, always.